- Before, when we had to deal with distance, we both went to new places. This time, I am in the new place and I have left him behind.
- Before, we were in the same time zone. Now we are not.
- Before, I did not have a job that demanded a lot of my attention and time. Now I do.
- Before, we were not married, now we are. This means that a lot of logistical decisions about life affect both of us and merit discussion, whereas before I would just do what I did because it was my life and he was just my boyfriend.
All told, we are holding up well, but I do not recommend doing what we are doing. Fortunately though, in the grand scheme of things we are still good - he supports me and my job and is not blaming me for leaving him behind at all. The difficulties are just artifacts of the circumstances we are in.
I love the guy. But man, I wish he could visit me more.